Gender Transfusion

I find it interesting that transgender "issues" weren't trending until recently.

It was not until transgender entered the homes of the populace through Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner, that many became interested.  It was not until transgender entered the bathrooms that many became fixated.  In each case the transgender "issue" has become more and more intimate, at least seemingly, to the lives of people living in our country because it has hit closer to home–closer to potty–and that's where we feel vulnerable.  In many cases, people didn't know there was something to worry about, until they heard there was something to worry about.  In some cases, people have been preparing to give their opinion about the transgender "issue" for years now.  And in very rare cases, the ultra savvy of our day have been riding the cultural wave for a while now, and have projected the transgender segment as the new frontier of "human rights."  Whether this transgender "issue" is new in the trending news feed of your mind, or you've been considering it for a while–pro, con, worried, intrigued, or none of the above–I'm here to tell you the transgender "issue" is not the most important issue surrounding sex and gender identity that we should be concerned about.

Anemic 

Regular, Old-Fashioned, Heterosexual–this is the kind of sex we should be most concerned about.  Men as men, women as women–this is the kind of gender we should be most concerned about.  It is here that we are most sick, it is here that we are lacking, it is here that the vast majority of We The People find ourselves, and it is here that the real battle is raging–regardless of what your Facebook feed, or favorite news anchor says.

But, but, America is going down the tubes because of this latest headline, and this trending trendy trend.  It has to be true, because it's different, and weird and aberrant...and it's safe.  Well safe for me.  Safe for most around me.  It's safe to run up the flagpole as America's problem; because it's not my problem–and you reader, I'm willing to bet it's not your problem either.  So it's Americas's problem.  The potties at Target, the rights of so and so people, about so and so topic.  It's fresh and trending and most importantly it's about SEX! It's SEX, and Bodies, and IDENTITY–it even has a more alluring name than "gender", trans-gender–and so it's not only the most important issue about human identity, it's the most important issue in our country.  It's the falseness to One Nation Under God.

But that's not really true...

It's a clever ploy, a sly deception–it's crafted by the enemy, and it's sopped up like stew prepared for the masses.  Please shake your head in disgusted admiration at the impeccable job satan has done in running interference for the most insidious aberration of sex and gender–the slow decline of manhood and womanhood.

We have departed from our own identities.  Not all of us, not totally, not all the time.  But the general swarm of things have urged us to leave antiquated notions of "man" and "women" behind.  And so we have men who do not act like men, women who do not act like women.  And if your blood is boiling at the notion that there is such a difference and we should be absurd enough to define it; well then step on up to the witness stand–you're my EXHIBIT A.  And I know you well, because I'm EXHIBIT B.  We've grown to believe this together.  The truth is, almost all of us have been raised to think this way.  We've been raised with a truth, and herded by an assumption.  The truth–men and women are equal (this is true).  The assumption–men and women are the same.  Equal is not same.  Don't believe me?  Ask the cup of flour, that you accidentally substituted for a cup of sugar in your from scratch cake recipe–and wave bye at his mischievous face as you through it in the trash.  But the notion has been bred into us.  We have been inculcated by it's teaching.  In many ways the uniqueness of men and women has been stripped from the very substance of our DNA.  It has been decreasing from our created identity.  And so we are living in want.  Living in need.  Sometimes living without.  We have been sick for a while now.  Your created identity that has made you, you, has at least in part, been slowly stripped from your blood.  We're anemic–and the problem is not transgendered, the problem is that we need a gender transfusion.

2 or 3 units...

Ok witnesses step up to the stand–I'm already here waiting for you.  How often have we failed in our lives because we are not the men God has called us to be?  How often have we failed in our lives because we are not the women God has called us to be?  You may balk at the idea of calling...but let's at least agree about God's creating.  Look down...God created you as something.  It was completely and utterly out of your control.  But in a desperation for control we jut our hands out trying cling to the notion that we choose gender...we identify our traits.  Let go, the burden is His, not yours.  Come slum it with us created things.

We need a gender transfusion.  We are 2 or 3 units shy.  Men who do not love and lead in the way God created them.  Women who do not support and nurture in the way God created them.  And what I am saying is that these 2 things are not mutually exclusive; in fact, they have everything to do with each other.  Because the inherent differences between male and female have been stripped away–Because the idea of "masculinity" and "femininity" have been stripped away–Because man-ness and woman-ness has endured a ferocious assault in our day–we have been led, dragged, passionately enticed away from the internal, untapped power that lies within us: Our Created Identities.

So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
 male and female he created them 

–Genesis 1:27

And what a horrific cycle it is to behold.  Our men rendered handicapped to love and to lead because the respect and support that they need is not there.  Our women rendered handicapped to respect and support because the love and leadership that they need is not there.  This the symptom of our anemia.  This is the byproduct of our fear.  Fear to say equal and different, when equal and same is the stew that has been prepared for the masses.  And it has worked.  It has worked because the latest headline, and this trending trendy trend.  It has worked because we believe the 1% who want to use our potties garner 100% of our attention.  It works because we cannot face the truth.  The war is not against this or that interest group, this or that sexual attraction, this or that court ruling; the war is against ourselves.  The war is against our own gender.  The war is against our created identities–and I am saying that this finds genesis in the marriage relationship

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.  Ephesians 5:33

It all begins in the marriage relationship and ripples out to every single relationship that we human beings experience and hold dear.   It is the relationship between men and women in our homes, in our marriages.  The love and respect that is shown to one another and reciprocated daily is the most powerful relationship that shapes our society–it is the same relationship that is compared to Jesus and His Church.  It is the love and respect that we are afraid to show, that we are afraid to "owe" one another.  It is the craving for unwavering love and leadership that God built into Eve and her daughters.  It is the craving for respect and support that god built into Adam and his sons.  And for men(speaking on behalf of men), the fuel that gets the love and leadership engine fired up is the respect and support of our wives.  And for women, the fuel that gets the respect and support engine fired up is the love and leadership of their husbands.  Love and respect–it complements–so that the more men experience respect and support the more fired up they are to love and lead; and the more women experience love and leadership, the more fired up they are to respect and support.  It's harmonious catalyst of our making; because of sin, because of denial of our created selves, because of selfishness, it is the poison that infects the watering hole as it ripples out.

The war here, in us, in our marriage, in our faithfulness to live as a Christian man and woman.  In our faithfulness to love and respect.  In our faithfulness to be a man, to be woman, to be what God created us to be.  It is in all of our complete submission to Christ.  It is in forgiveness.  It is in being brave for our sinful husbands to Love us and Lead us like Jesus loves and leads the church.  It is in relishing in forgiveness when he does not.  It is in being brave for our sinful wives to Respect and Support us like the Church respects and supports Jesus.  It is in relishing in forgiveness when she does not.  Finally, it is in being a created thing–being a man or woman, saying they are distinct and specially made; and it's in being brave to say so, even when so and so says they are not.

Side Effects

Transgendered people, transgendered "issues" did not plop upon the face of the earth within the past few years.  The issue has been trending because of some high profile transgender identities, and some decisions made about potties.  However, I firmly believe that what has everybody so fiery this or fiery that, or even so fiery disinterested, is the haziness of our own identities; our own genders.  We are wrestling in U.S. of A. with the idea of what a man and woman should, should not, and most importantly should not be labeled to be.  And so we just don't be.   We vacillate between the rise of faux masculine beards, and dudes who don't know how to hold the door open for a women, or give up their seats for a lady.  We vacillate between the rise of feminine form enriching yoga pants, and stay at home Moms shamed for their vocation.  It's a hard time to be a man or woman.  We are groping for the meaning and significance.  Is it a coincidence that the picture of masculinity, Olympic stud Bruce Jenner, is the poster child for this manifestation of gender insecurity in us all?  No, it is not.  And yet it is just a side effect.  Being man and woman–especially in the context of marriages–this is the battleground of sex, gender, and identity.

And Jesus is coming to redeem manhood and womanhood.  He is coming to restore all things. He is coming to restore identity to created things.  Thank you Jesus for your created things.

Living Between the Lights

I'm obsessed with C.S. Lewis' small book, The Great Divorce; and if you're a Christian you should be obsessed with it just the same.

What is the great divorce?  It is the complete separation of Heaven and Hell.
What is this book about?  A group of passengers living in hell take a bus ride to the very outskirts of heaven–just outside,–and are given the opportunity to enter into heaven through the guidance of spiritual guides.  The book is the eyewitness account of these interactions.

Partial

Among the many visual beauties this book doles out, and the one that will unlock the following post, is that of a partial light.  Not quite day, not quite night...the playground of The Great Divorce is a partial light.  The travelers in Lewis' story commute from Hell; a place of partial light–with it's sickly weak luminescence–to the outskirts of a heavenly mountain–a place of partial light–as the sun is threatening to juuuussstttt peak over the the mountaintop.  And so in this reality before Jesus' final coming to rule and reign over all things, the sun is setting on the inhabitants of hell, and rising on those coming into Jesus' Kingdom.  Lewis' does a better job of explaining:

...But ye can get some likeness of it if ye say that both good and evil, when they are full grown, become retrospective. Not only this valley but all this earthly past will have been Heaven to those who are saved. Not only the twilight in that town, but all their life on earth too, will then be seen by the damned to have been Hell. That is what mortals misunderstand. They say of some temporal suffering, 'No future bliss can make up for it,' not knowing that Heaven, once attained, will work backwards and turn even that agony into a glory. And of some sinful pleasure they say 'Let me but have this and I'll take the consequences': little dreaming how damnation will spread back and back into their past and contaminate the pleasure of the sin. Both processes begin even before death. The good man's past begins to change so that his forgiven sins and remembered sorrows take on the quality of Heaven: the bad man's past already conforms to his badness and is filled only with dreariness. And that is why, at the end of all things, when the sun rises here and the twilight turns to blackness down there, the Blessed will say, 'We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven,' and the Lost, 'We were always in Hell.' And both will speak truly."

Wow!  I read Lewis' words many different times before the gravity hit me.  The weight, the force, the beauty in these words is this:  it's true!  These words are true.  Jesus has come.  Jesus has died.  Jesus has ascended.  Jesus is coming quickly.  Eternity has already begun.  *take a second* Eternity has already begun.  And how has it begun?  With a partial light.  You know the light.  You experience the light.  You are well acquainted with the light.  You feel it's presence.  You know it's warmth upon your face.  You grope outwardly in it's absence when you feel you need it most.  You breath the light in your through nose; it expels from your mouth.  It's the comfy jeans, the sound of your spouses voice.  The light is the ins and out, the ebbs and the flows.  The light is the agent that numbs, and the catalyst that prickles and stirs up.  You know the light.  Your eyes have adjusted to it.  It everything that you see and walk through around you.  The light is yours, and mine, and every other living creature's.  The light is real, it's here, it's perceived, and also forgotten.  The light is in the world.  A solo entry into the vaults of here and now.  The light abides...and it is partial.

Connotations and Men

Partial light is a waypoint between darkness and light.  The partial light rules the present.  It is what we experience when we watch the news, unlock our phones, get to work, get a long voicemail, and come home from the doctor.  The partial light is there when we open our eyes.  It is the good and bad of this world.  It is fun and panic.  It is pleasure and distress.  It is good news and bad news.  The partial light is graduating from college the same day your neighbor 2 blocks up and 3 houses over hears of the tumor growing inside their pancreas; darkness and light crashing in vigorous dashes of reality all around us.  The partial light is reality.  It's real, and C.S. Lewis knows it.  And so he writes of it in a fanciful tale of some travelers on a bus ride; experiencing partial light in both entry points to heaven and hell–and everywhere in between.  Lewis is not brilliant because he knows the partialness of light in this world.  This quote above is not compelling because it recognizes the partial light.  The compelling brilliance of Lewis' words lies in acknowledgment that we live between 2 great realities:  Eternities of Heaven and Hell.  The light is partial for everyone.  But for the believer in Jesus, the partial light is from a sun that is barely rising to it's glory, ascending over the horizon.  And for those who are apart from Jesus' salvation, the partial light is the twilight of a sun's light setting to the depths of it's own committal to the grave.  And so for you, and for me, for us all–this reality is either heaven for the taking, or hell in the making.

So here and now good and bad come to us all.  Happiness and shame are our garments.  Aches and achievements are the beatings of our hearts.  Lewis' assertion is this:  The upcoming glory of the Kingdom of God is a life of a deliberate sunrise to those who belong to Jesus.  And the impending separation from God's Glory is the slithering life of a creeping sunset to those who are not in Jesus.  One more time; we all experience the partial light–the good, the bad, the ugly, and the gorgeous–but all of these things are interpreted by either a sunrise or a sunset.  Everything you perceive or experience in this world is either a symptom of your decomposing body, or the growing pains of a  coming Body Like His.

Mounds of Glory

Thus far, this illuminating trail of thought put forth by Lewis is helpful in attributing the things that happen in our life to a cosmic shuffle:  Those living in glory, to a glorification.  Those living lives separated from God, to a total separation.  But what puts Lewis' little book into the stratosphere for me is what happens next:

The good man's past begins to change so that his forgiven sins and remembered sorrows take on the quality of Heaven: the bad man's past already conforms to his badness and is filled only with dreariness. And that is why, at the end of all things, when the sun rises here and the twilight turns to blackness down there, the Blessed will say, 'We have never lived anywhere except in Heaven,' and the Lost, 'We were always in Hell.' And both will speak truly."

The truth and pervasiveness of our impending reality, both for those to heaven and those to hell, is that living in the partial light is not all that it seems.  For Lewis, the pain, and suffering, and even the forgiven sinfulness in the life of those in Jesus, takes on a sort of glorification...a preparation for the eternal light.  In the same way, the things of this life, even the seemingly beautiful and glorious, for those outside of Jesus, takes on a corrupt dreariness.  And so those bound for heaven are already living there.  And those bound for hell are already living there.  Bravo Mr. Lewis!  But what if it's true?  Like really?  What if it's true?  It would change everything about our everyday life.  It would change everything about the partial light we now live in.  Yes the good and the bad would still come our way.  But the marks of pain, and suffering, and sin-sickness in this life would be transformed.

The bumps into mounds of glory

The bruises, into violet patches of prestige

The cuts, and scars, and stretch marks, into the stripes of valor

The stuttering mouths, into patient lips

Misshapen desires, into childlike content

The thing you suffer with [yes that thing], into the unique trinket adorning you–set in place by the Creator

Everything about you would be transformed...and I am saying that it has!

Living Between the Lights

In the same way, the weak, partial light of this world for those outside of Christ, shines light on the truth this life's sufferings.  For those riding into the twilight, even the most impressive glories of this life, are whimpering pronouncements of a graveside committal to the deep.

So why Lewis?  Why does this matter?  It all sounds so very set in stone.  Except...it's not.  If you are reading this right now–you are living between the lights.  We are living between the lights.  We are between the dusk and dawn.  We are right smack dab in the partial light of life.  Who we know matters.  What we do, and believe matters.  And what we say and do with Jesus with those we know really, really matters.  And faith in Jesus matters most.  As long as we live between the lights, we have an opportunity to be a part of Jesus mission  As long as we live between the lights we have the opportunity to change dusk to dawn in the lives of those we love.  As long as we live between the lights we have the opportunity to say of the ickiness, and pain, and suffering, and tears, and hate, and hurtfulness of this life, you are being transformed into some future glory.  Although the pain and suffering is very real, the partial light only reveals partially.  The fullness is coming.  The light of eternity is coming.  The authors pen is on it's final stroke.

Wage war against the light that is being snuffed out for those around you.  Rejoice in the sun that is juuuusssttt about to peak over those mountains, as we await Jesus' coming.  Because, when the light and the darkness are separated, and Heaven and Hell's Divorce is complete, the glorified will say, "we were always the light of the world," and the separated from God, "we were always in death's shadow." And both will have spoken truly.